Andy B
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Mid life crisisThinking beyond the " If i had the nerve " thread i wonder if any of us have had a bit of a mid life whats it all about moment and just gone and done something suprising!
I havent myself yet but some days i am almost having to physicaly stop myself from having a "moment"
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tahir
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Almost did it,very very recently.
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Andy B
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| tahir wrote: | | Almost did it,very very recently. |
Would you like to expand on that, although don't mind if you dont want to just in case it's personal.
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tahir
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Not really, but it was to do with a farm I've just pulled out of buying.
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Blue Peter
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| tahir wrote: | | Almost did it,very very recently. |
Is that the walking on water thing, Tahir? 
Are you not doing it? Or is this something separate
Peter.
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tahir
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The whole project is off.
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sean
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Jacking in my job in London and moving to Devon to be a househusband. If that counts.
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gil
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mid-life crisestried to jack in my day job last week (contract expiring anyway). but head of dept won't accept it. so i'm currently 'reconsidering'. But I did mean it, and still do.
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Behemoth
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| tahir wrote: | | The whole project is off. |
Ouch. 
Plenty of wobbly moments as fear of the unknown has pulled me back into my comfort zone.
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tahir
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| Behemoth wrote: | | Plenty of wobbly moments as fear of the unknown has pulled me back into my comfort zone. |
To be honest I'm not sure that I'd have gone for it a few years ago, I'd always wanted to but had no idea where to start, all the people that I've met through here and RC gave me the confidence to do it. Now that I've got no project of my own I'm more than happy to help anybody else in any way that I can.
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Andy B
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| tahir wrote: | | Not really, but it was to do with a farm I've just pulled out of buying. |
You must feel really fed up.
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Northern_Lad
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Re: mid-life crises | gbst wrote: | | ... but head of dept won't accept it... |
When my BIL quit his job he told boss-woman-thing what he was doing, how much holiday he was due and when his last day would be in accordance with the rules, and handed over the letter. She told him "you can't do that, I need time to think about it" 
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tahir
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| Andy B wrote: | | You must feel really fed up. |
I did last week, feel better now I've told everyone, still got to tell the architects though.
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Andy B
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Re: mid-life crises | Northern_Lad wrote: | | gbst wrote: | | ... but head of dept won't accept it... |
When my BIL quit his job he told boss-woman-thing what he was doing, how much holiday he was due and when his last day would be in accordance with the rules, and handed over the letter. She told him "you can't do that, I need time to think about it" |
I bet he felt good when he handed over that letter 
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Northern_Lad
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Re: mid-life crises | Andy B wrote: | | I bet he felt good when he handed over that letter |
Didn't he just! I knew what was going on too, so I kept making journeys past the meeting room to see if I could see or hear anything.
Apparently, the day after I left she was seen at my old PC trying to figure out what I'd been doing that was, in her words, 'easy'. She was close to tears by all accounts. Such a shame. 
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wellington womble
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Well, Himself and I have both jacked in the day jobs, me to go back to uni, and him to start his own business. Although the uni bit may have worked out (results on Wednesday) The business is a resounding failure, and there is a shortage of jobs in physio. we were hoping to downsize our mortgage and upsize our house, but I didn't get the job in devon, and have an interview for a local one in a couple of weeks. Typical!
we're having a bit of a rethink at the moment. I came to the conclusion ages ago that two people who can live and work anywhere, shouldn't be living here, but I have to get a job somewhere we want to move to first. If we wound up the business, we could live on my income, easily. It's a bit depressing for himself (and for me actually, having no job prospects!) but we're optimistic people, and acutally I don't think I could have pursuaded him to move if we didn't need to rethink - I just need to get the right job now. So although it doesn't always go to plan, I'd be stuck here if the business was successful!
Anyone have any reccommendations of nice places to live? needs access to a hospital for me to work in, otherwise anywhere downsizery considered - don't want a smallholding yet, just a big garden - got about 200K to spend, and happy to build/convert (in fact, prefereable!)
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Bugs
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JB seems very taken by NI (I feel like I should be shouting that in to an overdesigned mobile, closely followed by "yes, I'm ON THE TRAIN".
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Jonnyboy
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I had a slight wobble around thirty, I think I'm gearing up for a big one though, the prospect continuing to do a job I hate which gives me no moral or emotional reward is a nightmare.
Want to retrain as a chef, chicken farmer, fisherman, deli owner or man of mystery.
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tahir
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| Jonnyboy wrote: | | the prospect continuing to do a job I hate which gives me no moral or emotional reward is a nightmare. |
Tell me about it.
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tawny owl
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Not quite midlife (I hope!) but I did jack in very stressful job that was making me ill & set up own business, just a wee one - never been happier, lots of time to spend with OH and in garden, and even better, earn about a third more than I did in aforesaid job for much less work.
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Bugs
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What does your business do Tawny? (Apologies if you've said  )
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Behemoth
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| tahir wrote: | | Jonnyboy wrote: | | the prospect continuing to do a job I hate which gives me no moral or emotional reward is a nightmare. |
Tell me about it. |
You two are doing so much to cheer me up.
I've just spent all day cross checking numbers in tables. It this sort of thing that makes picking broad beans in the evening a total pleasure.
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leebu
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| Behemoth wrote: | | tahir wrote: | | Jonnyboy wrote: | | the prospect continuing to do a job I hate which gives me no moral or emotional reward is a nightmare. |
Tell me about it. |
You two are doing so much to cheer me up.
I've just spent all day cross checking numbers in tables. It this sort of thing that makes picking broad beans in the evening a total pleasure. |
Is this a support group. If so can I join?
My mid-life crisis is pencilled in for early 2007. That way most of my debts should be paid off so I can REALLY screw things up for everyone. I'm not sure what it'll involve but it will probably leave a fishing boat-shaped hole in my pocket... and a wife-shaped hole in my life. 
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tahir
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| leebu wrote: | | it will probably leave a fishing boat-shaped hole in my pocket... and a wife-shaped hole in my life. |
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Lozzie
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I had a total wibble the other day ... just suddenly finding the rollercoaster ride of sometimes working 7 days a week and sometimes not at all rather hard going.
I love my job - I'm very lucky, and not complaining - but the pressure of being the breadwinner can still be quite overpowering sometimes.
Thank heavens for Rescue Remedy
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Nanny
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mid life crisisboth myself and mr nanny hate our jobs big time and i do mean it believe me....
the only consolation at the moment is that the hated jobs pay for the other things like the pseudo smallholding and the horsey things and the goats and garden.
we do not like the thought that we may be stuck doing this until we're 65 which is why we decided to do the other things now. so while other people are paying off their mortgages early and not doing the things they want to do"until retirement" we are doing it now and that makes the job thing a bit more bearable.
we may have got it completely wrong - i don't know but until something changes and we can move (if ever) to do the things we want to properly, at least we do what we can now
a bit like behemoth and his allotment
do what you can now- don't wait for that day in the future which may never come
we have had to give up other things like the holidays and going out and stuff like that but we are still doing what we want to do within the confines of that horrible 9-5 (in our case 7.30-3.30) job. the complete change from one life to another is every bit as good as a holiday
hope that allmakes a bit of sense after a good belt of quarter cask laphroiag..............
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alison
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No crisis for me, but OH has one quite frequently 
If anyone wants a shoulder to cry on I am here. 
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jema
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| Jonnyboy wrote: | I had a slight wobble around thirty, I think I'm gearing up for a big one though, the prospect continuing to do a job I hate which gives me no moral or emotional reward is a nightmare.
Want to retrain as a chef, chicken farmer, fisherman, deli owner or man of mystery. |
that rings a bell with me, at 30 I was wanting to strike out, but also waiting for the axe to fall with associated redundancy money  it seemed crazy to be proactive about moving when you were about to be pushed 
As it turned out, they pushed and I was suddenly able to make decisions find it quite scary actually the way those decisions happen..... was it the fact that I read having been offered a job by EDS, that after 5 years they would present me with my very own Biro that convinced me that no way in hell would I work for them, that lead though various things to this place happening?
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Lloyd
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| sean wrote: | | Jacking in my job in London and moving to Devon to be a househusband. If that counts. |
Ditto but Shropshire!
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beth
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| alison wrote: |
If anyone wants a shoulder to cry on I am here. |
Dont tempt me. I made do with a Bear earlier. Bears are Good.
Beth
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Andrea
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Re: Mid life crisisI decided I'd had enough last year & gave up my job to go to Portugal & just bum around for a few months. I'm a single Mum & went back to work 6 weeks after my son was born, & I'd just had enough of working to pay the mortgage & childcare, yet never see him. I fully intended it just to be be a break though, and intended to return to 'normal' on my return.
Anyway, having the time to just do nothing out there gave me time to realise that I just didn't want to go back to that life any more.
I'll be heading back in about 4 weeks, with plans to do the whole good life thing. I'm completely skint as it's been over a year since I've worked now, but I would rather be skint and content than live like I did before.
I think it was the having time to think that brought it all home to me. Before that I was too busy earning a living and 'keeping up' to worry about what it was doing to me.
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tawny owl
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| Bugs wrote: | | What does your business do Tawny? (Apologies if you've said ) |
Hi Bugs
No, didn't, so no blushes necessary! I'm a freelance editor. I specialise in medical texts, so get paid quite well. I can sit at home all day tapping away on PC (and surfing like this!). No commuting, no office politics (unless I want to fight with myself), and can generally please myself when I do things (although I do find I work better in roughly office hours, which it can be very hard when weather is as gorgeous as now!
Tawny
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Mrs Fiddlesticks
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Mid-life crisises! Expert here!! Well only in as much as I've done some brave, IMHO anyways, things. Aged about 27 ish, after several years in Customer Service work both in shops and office inc front line for a double glazing company which was an extremely stressful and unsupportive atmosphere, I gave that all up for a 'year out' working as a council gardener - my Dad was horrified but it was a good experience and it helped me get my head straight.
And the last time I did it was over 3 years ago when I told my husband to leave as I'd had enough of being poorly treated and at the end totally ignored. It turned out to be the best thing I've ever done. I met Tim, who is just lovely, and then uprooted me and the kids to here to come and live with him. Couldn't be happier!
Sometimes you just have to jump!!
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